Thank you for taking the time to put that into words, I really needed that lesson today. We must show God we are grateful for the way He has crafted us 🙏🏻
I just got out of a relationship with a woman like this. And the problems are exactly like you lay them out here. Constant rumination, anxiety, a will to dominate. But despite those issues I would not have my relationships be with any other type of woman.
Interesting piece! The content truly reflects the true nature of smart women and their delusive state owing to the fact that their intelligence serves not but an impediment to their true purpose in life(marriage and reproduction)- kind of paradox and complex design!
But, IM, Can a red-pill aware man manage and govern a women of equal or higher intelligence successfully without having to attend the chaos and drama that comes along with her intellect?
The answer is in the piece - yes: if you are sufficiently individuated. To be an energetic container for a woman of genius level intelligence, you require the integration of the 3 key masculine archetypes (warrior, magician, lover), shadow integration (so you can be ruthless without being possessed by evil) and paradox tolerance (so you can see how functional contradictions interrelate without collapsing them into neat categories and embody them where fruitful).
With these things, you can stabilise her and get the best from her assuming she too has done the work to integrate her contradictions and isn't possessed by trauma etc.
You must be highly attuned to her, and she you, and then you prioritise one another over yourselves.
Failing that, no. It's not really possible. I understand why most men say they want a less intelligent woman, because it's easier and less is required of them. In truth, a genius woman is not for everyone (or even most men) because they do not have what it takes to give her what she truly requires so that she in turn can do the same for him.
A man has to be honest with himself about his capabilities, his level of spiritual/personal development, and his intellectual capacities and not bite off more than he can chew.
Being "red pill aware" in and of itself, is insufficient. Meaning: understanding gender dynamics aka masculine and feminine polarity is all well and good (and necessary) but not sufficient to truly master a woman of this caliber, who has much deeper and varied needs.
End of the day, if you're a say.. 115 IQ guy with a 150 IQ woman, you're going to have a miserable time. Her chaos will utterly destroy you. She will be light years ahead of you, and yet require you to stabilise her and comprehend her when all you're really capable of is dominance and not true perception/connection. Doesn't work.
See my essay on interrelational cognitive disparities for more on that:
I'm around 120 IQ (with caffeine) and have gone on dates with a few medicine students, some older, some younger. Chatting with some, you'd think they were retards who watch cartoons in their pajamas past noon, so the identity of being a 'med student' doesn't mean everything. Anyway, there was one medicine graduate I went on a road trip with to the lake. She was a tall, dark haired, slim washboard body 29yo. Unlike average women, her thoughts and behavior were focused, and her communication skills were refined - she could speak without her words' connotations doing work. The date went well, but she decided to choose another guy who was taking care of her when she got covid. I got some final compliments and best wishes and that was it.
I need to test my capabilities with another above-average woman like her again. I don't know if what I can offer is sufficient or not. I'd regret not finding out. Class of 2025 must've finished school and clinicals recently since I'm seeing a lot 29yo physicians online. Now is my chance.
There are a few doubts in my mind about being financially sufficient for a woman making fuck-you money. I don't know what kind of hypergamy-drive this calibre of women have. If I were their father, a man like me who has no-thank-you money, would be sufficient enough not to persuade my daughters to find a more badass dude. If I were their father, I'd be more concerned about a man like me devoid of a functional family and devoid of any irl friends. Maybe permanent monk mode could quell their concerns, but not entirely. You do have to be on the normie spectrum to conquer med school, after all.
A woman of intellectual and spiritual depth who has material/worldly/professional success is not thinking in hypergamic terms, she's thinking in terms of "a man who gets me that resonates with me that is dangerous but I can trust" - basically she wants a man who can speak her soul to her - who notices her subtleties and intricacies and nuances, and who can map her soul to master her - she seeks herself, but in a man.
And what does it mean for a man to be dangerous but trustworthy? In truth: an integrated shadow with an an integrated anima. So you possess the warrior archetype without being tyrannical, and the lover archetype without being a simp.
She wants you to teach her about herself, and she wants to feel like you're the kind of man she could surrender herself entirely to without being destroyed in the process, but instead remade into her most divinely (energetically) most beautiful self. This is the ultimate female fantasy, the "becoming" where the caterpillar becomes a butterfly so to speak, and very few women achieve it because you need both a man who can enable it and a woman who is courageous enough to see it through - if either lacks, it collapses.
What I am trying to say to you is you are thinking about this in the wrong frame/from the wrong angle. Because think about it, in your medicine graduate example she already has money and success. These are material things that give her options. She has those things to prove something to herself, and to give herself something to do. Essentially, she's mastered survival. But survival is not fulfilment. Unless she is seeking to stop working so she can finally live off a man after structuring her entire life to not need to live off a man and building the habits conducive to autonomy which are counter-conducive to relational cooperation, that's not going to be reason enough for her to be with you. And even if she was willing to be with you for material reasons, that's a red flag as she's selling out her integrity, and willingness to be with you is not the same as true, soul level desire for you.
So if you want a woman of this caliber to truly desire you, you have to be able to speak her soul to her. Like I said in the essay (the answers are largely there) you have to individuate as a man. Read Warrior, Magician, Lover, King and set about embodying those archetypes, integrating your shadow and being able to hold paradox. If you can do all that, you will be able to master a woman of this caliber. If you cannot, then you will not.
In very simple terms: you must grow more spiritually to be potent enough to possess what you seek in giving yourself to being reshaped by primordial archetypal forces.
I have had the pleasure of knowing some extremely incredible and interesting outlier women. Truly, I don't actually care for the company of women who are not individuated or outlier in some way (and I suppose I likewise apply this to men, but to a lesser extent as I find less remarkable men more tolerable and even more enjoyable than less remarkable women on aggregate).
That being said, I don't think my autobiography would make for a very interesting read as it's not like I've led some highly dramatised life of action and adventure (much to my dismay and insatiable desire to correct). That being said, this is partly truth, and partly my desire to maintain my privacy.
Thank you for taking the time to put that into words, I really needed that lesson today. We must show God we are grateful for the way He has crafted us 🙏🏻
I just got out of a relationship with a woman like this. And the problems are exactly like you lay them out here. Constant rumination, anxiety, a will to dominate. But despite those issues I would not have my relationships be with any other type of woman.
Great insight.
Can you write something on the Genius Man?
Interesting piece! The content truly reflects the true nature of smart women and their delusive state owing to the fact that their intelligence serves not but an impediment to their true purpose in life(marriage and reproduction)- kind of paradox and complex design!
But, IM, Can a red-pill aware man manage and govern a women of equal or higher intelligence successfully without having to attend the chaos and drama that comes along with her intellect?
Thanks.
The answer is in the piece - yes: if you are sufficiently individuated. To be an energetic container for a woman of genius level intelligence, you require the integration of the 3 key masculine archetypes (warrior, magician, lover), shadow integration (so you can be ruthless without being possessed by evil) and paradox tolerance (so you can see how functional contradictions interrelate without collapsing them into neat categories and embody them where fruitful).
With these things, you can stabilise her and get the best from her assuming she too has done the work to integrate her contradictions and isn't possessed by trauma etc.
You must be highly attuned to her, and she you, and then you prioritise one another over yourselves.
Failing that, no. It's not really possible. I understand why most men say they want a less intelligent woman, because it's easier and less is required of them. In truth, a genius woman is not for everyone (or even most men) because they do not have what it takes to give her what she truly requires so that she in turn can do the same for him.
A man has to be honest with himself about his capabilities, his level of spiritual/personal development, and his intellectual capacities and not bite off more than he can chew.
Being "red pill aware" in and of itself, is insufficient. Meaning: understanding gender dynamics aka masculine and feminine polarity is all well and good (and necessary) but not sufficient to truly master a woman of this caliber, who has much deeper and varied needs.
End of the day, if you're a say.. 115 IQ guy with a 150 IQ woman, you're going to have a miserable time. Her chaos will utterly destroy you. She will be light years ahead of you, and yet require you to stabilise her and comprehend her when all you're really capable of is dominance and not true perception/connection. Doesn't work.
See my essay on interrelational cognitive disparities for more on that:
https://thesovereigncitadel.com/p/seen-but-never-known-the-curse-of
Well explained. Understood. Appreciated.
I'm around 120 IQ (with caffeine) and have gone on dates with a few medicine students, some older, some younger. Chatting with some, you'd think they were retards who watch cartoons in their pajamas past noon, so the identity of being a 'med student' doesn't mean everything. Anyway, there was one medicine graduate I went on a road trip with to the lake. She was a tall, dark haired, slim washboard body 29yo. Unlike average women, her thoughts and behavior were focused, and her communication skills were refined - she could speak without her words' connotations doing work. The date went well, but she decided to choose another guy who was taking care of her when she got covid. I got some final compliments and best wishes and that was it.
I need to test my capabilities with another above-average woman like her again. I don't know if what I can offer is sufficient or not. I'd regret not finding out. Class of 2025 must've finished school and clinicals recently since I'm seeing a lot 29yo physicians online. Now is my chance.
There are a few doubts in my mind about being financially sufficient for a woman making fuck-you money. I don't know what kind of hypergamy-drive this calibre of women have. If I were their father, a man like me who has no-thank-you money, would be sufficient enough not to persuade my daughters to find a more badass dude. If I were their father, I'd be more concerned about a man like me devoid of a functional family and devoid of any irl friends. Maybe permanent monk mode could quell their concerns, but not entirely. You do have to be on the normie spectrum to conquer med school, after all.
A woman of intellectual and spiritual depth who has material/worldly/professional success is not thinking in hypergamic terms, she's thinking in terms of "a man who gets me that resonates with me that is dangerous but I can trust" - basically she wants a man who can speak her soul to her - who notices her subtleties and intricacies and nuances, and who can map her soul to master her - she seeks herself, but in a man.
And what does it mean for a man to be dangerous but trustworthy? In truth: an integrated shadow with an an integrated anima. So you possess the warrior archetype without being tyrannical, and the lover archetype without being a simp.
She wants you to teach her about herself, and she wants to feel like you're the kind of man she could surrender herself entirely to without being destroyed in the process, but instead remade into her most divinely (energetically) most beautiful self. This is the ultimate female fantasy, the "becoming" where the caterpillar becomes a butterfly so to speak, and very few women achieve it because you need both a man who can enable it and a woman who is courageous enough to see it through - if either lacks, it collapses.
What I am trying to say to you is you are thinking about this in the wrong frame/from the wrong angle. Because think about it, in your medicine graduate example she already has money and success. These are material things that give her options. She has those things to prove something to herself, and to give herself something to do. Essentially, she's mastered survival. But survival is not fulfilment. Unless she is seeking to stop working so she can finally live off a man after structuring her entire life to not need to live off a man and building the habits conducive to autonomy which are counter-conducive to relational cooperation, that's not going to be reason enough for her to be with you. And even if she was willing to be with you for material reasons, that's a red flag as she's selling out her integrity, and willingness to be with you is not the same as true, soul level desire for you.
So if you want a woman of this caliber to truly desire you, you have to be able to speak her soul to her. Like I said in the essay (the answers are largely there) you have to individuate as a man. Read Warrior, Magician, Lover, King and set about embodying those archetypes, integrating your shadow and being able to hold paradox. If you can do all that, you will be able to master a woman of this caliber. If you cannot, then you will not.
In very simple terms: you must grow more spiritually to be potent enough to possess what you seek in giving yourself to being reshaped by primordial archetypal forces.
I can't resonate with everything but a lot of it sounds interesting; thx
I have had the pleasure of knowing some extremely incredible and interesting outlier women. Truly, I don't actually care for the company of women who are not individuated or outlier in some way (and I suppose I likewise apply this to men, but to a lesser extent as I find less remarkable men more tolerable and even more enjoyable than less remarkable women on aggregate).
That being said, I don't think my autobiography would make for a very interesting read as it's not like I've led some highly dramatised life of action and adventure (much to my dismay and insatiable desire to correct). That being said, this is partly truth, and partly my desire to maintain my privacy.
So although unlikely, never say never.